Not my concern

Some people want people they like, to get along with each other, they take measures to make sure that everyone they hang out with like each other back. For example, your friend might want you to get along well with her husband and kids, or your partner would like it if you got along with her family, your family would prefer it if you got along with all your relatives, your relatives would be elated if you got along with all their relatives, maybe that's bit of a stretch but you get the gist.

I understand that it can be very stressful mentally to be spending time with people you don't get along with - simply in the name of the association.

I am totally fine if two people I am extremely fond of, are not fond of each other much. The least I expect from people, in general, is to be civil and well-mannered no matter who they are and whom they like (or not). I have no need for my girlfriend to get along perfectly well with another girlfriend, or every family member to get along with every other family member, so on and so forth. It is great if they do, but if they don't it doesn't bother me.

It also does not bother me if someone I am fond of is hanging out with someone I don't get along with. I really don't care to indulge in anyone's personal dynamics with each other. I like giving people their space and letting them make their own choices about who they want in their lives and/or don't my wavelength matching or not matching with someone does not imply it will for you. I do not think to have me as a common link should be a punishment for anyone. The only relationship they need to care about is with me. Anything else is not necessarily my concern.

Jeans: Abercrombie and fitch, Belt: target, Top: Charter's Club

Jeans: Abercrombie and Fitch, Top: Charters's club, Shoes: Nine West

My eating-mantras

• A good diet is the one that you can follow for the rest of your life


• A good meal is which leaves you satisfied and at the same time makes you feel light


• Fast Food = Fast & Permanent calories!


• Eating or shopping can not be a hobby!
  
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Skirt: Ann Taylor factory

Tights: Target

Shoes: Ellen Tracy

Top: Charter's club

Sweater: Nordstrom Rack

Shoes: Blondo

Shirt: Banana Republic

Sweater: Modcloth

Jeans: American Eagle

What the health - Part 10 - More reasons you are not losing weight

This is part 10 of 'What the health' series. You can find earlier parts here - part1, part2, part3, part4,  part 5, part 6, part 7, part 8,  part 9

9. Poor Digestion

You are not what you eat; you are what you digest and absorb!

Our gut health determines our overall wellbeing. The bacteria that lie in our gut help us to fight disease, process our food, make nutrients and make hormones. When your liver is sluggish, it struggles to process substances/toxins/hormones efficiently and this leads to toxic build-up and this will inevitably cause weight gain.

I would suggest fixing your digestion by eating simple and easy to digest foods, do not forget to drink one glass of buttermilk every day (not yogurt but homemade buttermilk).

10. Don't Drink Water

Last but not the least, we have all heard how important H2O is when it comes to shedding pounds. It helps to suppress appetite, so you're less likely to overeat. Staying hydrated keeps all chemical reactions going on in your body run smoothly and it fixes metabolism. It allows your kidneys to function properly and filter everything that they need to. Water is great for skin too.

How much water should you drink? It depends on how much you weigh, what climate you live in and how much you work out. 0.5+ ounce per 1 pound of body weight, so if you weigh 150 pounds you would be drinking (75+ ounces (2.2 liters))+ (if you live in a hot climate then few more ounces) + (if you work out each day then few more ounces). I drink 3 liters (more or less) every day.

coming up in the next posts... how to lose weight and stay healthy

Top: Charters's Club

Skirt: J crew factory

Shoes: nine west

The war of art

Shoes: Tommy Hilfiger

Pant: American Eagle

Top: Charter's Club

Necklace: Nordstrom Rack

My new post 'the war of art' is available here.

Goodreads Challenge

Denim: American Eagle

Shoes: Tommy Hilfiger

Top: Charter's Club

My new post Goodreads Challenge is available HERE

Tinge of India

What is the first thing you notice when you land in India?

Colors! Too bad if you said smell ;-)

India is a brightly colorful country (in every which way). Most of the people in this side of the world wear a lot of pastels, grays, black and whites. Looking at today's picture now I feel it needed a tinge of India!

skirt: Chicwish

top: Charter's Club

Tights: Hue

Shoes: Dr. Scholl's

Red Lipstick

Shoes, a beautiful dress, new haircut, jewelry are all trivial material things, in all honesty it should not matter because people say our inner self is what matters.

Once I went to meet a friend who was down with severe bronchitis. She was wearing a nice dress and a red lipstick, she didn't look sick at all. 'You look good' I said. While pricking her skin with a needle (for her gestational diabetes) she said 'Exactly! I look good and so I feel good'.

Our physical form is strongly connected to our identity, that is how we interact with the world around us. The exterior matters as much as the interior... 

Skirt: United Colors Of Benetton, 

Shoes: Guess, 

Top: Charter's Club from Macys